Quote: She is not getting from you those things that turn her on.
She and I have discussed this at length...to the point where I don't want to bring it up anymore because her tune never changes.
Her point is, consistently, that I do the right things outside and inside the bedroom, she's just not attracted to me so it doesn't matter what I do or how I do it. She says that when she was having her A, the OM didn't do anything that I don't do...that our relationship had just degenerated to the point where she didn't want it from me, and that's still where we're at.
I follow GH's responses religiously but, honestly, talking with my W seems to me to be the best way to learn if I'm not doing something I should be, or am doing something I'm not. I don't put her under the microscope when I bring it up, she just gives me the "it's not you, it's me" speech and says we just need to keep doing what we're doing and let time take care of the rest.
Personally, I DO feel like she's holding something back, not necessarily something sexual or physical or romantic (could be) that she wants, but something she's dealing with. I can't prove that, just something I "feel" (gack).
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
