Hummmm.... Your wife may be one of those ladies who feels more loving if you're helping around the house (i.e. doing dishes with her, talking to her, doing little romantic things once in awhile like flowers, nice compliments... etc...).
My guess is communication and connecting (like Sven wrote on his post) probably make her feel much closer to you and make the SL more comfortable for her.
Unfortunately this whole piecing thing takes time. It's amazing how you can start off with some problems that fuel these As and then afterwards it's like a mountain of garbage to dig through. Those original problems no longer seem so bad!
Well, somehow we'll all get through this.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
