How long ago didi she confessed to you? I know my H didn't feel much for me when he came back in April, I am bitting my tongue about asking him if he loves me now. He has very gradually warmed up to me but I did have to do all the work at the beginning, so by now I know his feelings are different, so I'm guessing your W's feelings have also changed.
Guess we tend to get hung up on the initial negative feedback we got from our spouses, though we arent where we want to be we are in a better place. I think lingering kisses do mean something, you get what you give, if you are being affectionate w/her some of that affection, even a little, is bound to come back to you.
I also second guess myself, wondering if I should play hard to get at the danger of making him think I am back to my desinterested self from these past years. So I go w/what feels right to me, if I really want him to initiate but want him to also show interest I just cuddle w/him and see where it goes, if he is not into it for the night he'll eventually move away after a good night kiss.. and then I teach myself to be happy w/that and not resent him.
Look at the progress you've achieved all these months, like a line chart, if the line has progressively gone up, even by a quarter inch, then there is progress, e.i. a lingering kiss, kissing back, etc
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
