Thanks. I too am a "touchy/feely" kind of person. I guess my sitch is a little different. My H and I are very accustomed to holding hands, cuddling, and frankly still do,even post affair, but the REASON I stayed was because I didn't want to loose my bestfriend. His friendship means the world to me. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think there's a person out there that doesn't like affection, be it men or women, but with a "mature" relationship, that can play second fiddle to a relationship that is deeper and more meaningful, the kind of relationship that you can share your biggest secret, share your joys, share your ups and downs. I also often talk to him like I would a woman bestfriend, I'm not afraid to tell him anything. With that type of openess, we've grown closer. He trusts me (no, I don't completely trust him, but I'm working on it)and he also knows that he now can tell me anything. I guess what I'm trying to say, I treat him like my friend, he treats me like his friend, we share our emotions, our dreams, etc. which makes us closer, which leads to intimacy. It's the cause and affect rule. I hope this makes sense. You asked if you are you asking for too much? That is a question that only you can answer. I've answered that question and I'm content with my answer.
