I think your W is fabulous, I'm so impressed with her
Yeah, thanks, I'm becoming pretty impressed with her as well. As much as I'm repulsed by who she was, I'm ecstatic over who she's becoming. We would certainly not be as far along as we are now without her commitment. I really admire her alot and can now see how much more important that is.
Gwyn,
Quote: Do you think sometimes that God would show you a different path that leads you down a different road than being with your wife?
Absolutely not. I'm a Christian and I truly believe God designed marriage to, as Gary Thomas writes, "make us holy rather than happy"...although happiness may be a part of it. I believe he hates divorce and don't believe that's ever His will.
I don't believe I have the right in God's eyes to cease being responsible for my wife and our relationship. When I committed to "for better or for worse," that wasn't just reciting some flowery language. Of course, I'm also partially responsbile for making things worse, so I'm obligated to do my best to make things better now.
She of course is free to reject it and walk away from it, me, and our marriage, and if she ever chooses to do that, well, that'd be her choice but it'd be the wrong one. I sure hope she doesn't, though.
Quote: Only because it's easier and that's what your wife deserves?
Well, actually, there have been times I wanted her to experience exactly what she deserves, but God slapped my upside my head and reminded me that if we all simply got what we deserved, we'd be in serious trouble. I'm obligated to forgive because of the forgiveness I've received, and God blesses obedience. I'm fortunate in that my W seeks to be obedient as well. For now. But I've made enough progress on my own that even if she bails now or in the future, I sure would be hurt and saddened by it, but it wouldn't devastate me I don't think.
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You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
