It takes months for the affair to be truly over in their heads.
4 months n/c in good.
But it takes time.
It is not a contest, don't dwell on it.
She wants to be with YOU.
She is with YOU.
She M/L to you.
She says she loves YOU.
You are so far ahead in this game but you can not see the forest for the trees.
One step at a time, take a deep breath.
Maybe she really needs to feel sure about what she is feeling and right now she is still trying to find her place.
My word of advice to you is to be patient, don't play games, love her and let her set the pace.
Your anxiety about the situation will push her away.
Just be yourself, and let her warm up to things.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
