There is a book that addresses this very issue. Sexuality can be tied to lots of things - danger, insecurity... I believe the book that addressed this is called - the Erotic Mind (Jack Morin) - a very, very interesting read. Journey - don't be discouraged, no one's sexuality is a pure interaction, there are lots of odd things that get tied into it. One of my first serious boyfriends drank Pepsi, smoked cigarettes and obsessively used breath fresheners - I have a really odd reaction to a kiss that involves the mint/Pepsi combo. H has sometimes unwittingly had this combo. H uses a particular soap and has his own smell - I am often turned on to him merely by his smell. I have also noticed that I am often indecently turned on to him in situations where there is absolutely no possibility in sex - church, business dinners, places like that. My point? Insecurity is no doubt ONE thing that turns you on for some reason - I'll bet there are others. Also, you can create conditions of "insecurity" sometimes just for fun - what about some sexy role plays that involve something like that? You could actually play with the idea - what if you pretended that H was packing his suitcase to leave you and you are trying to seduce him into staying? See what I mean? Check out the book - VERY interesting stuff.
