Our kids are changing all the time, but this haircut thing really hit me between the eyes. D14 looks so grown up! And H and I have to adjust. ( S12 is immature for his age, so we have time there). I wish my daughter had a cool aunt to give her WOA while her parents sort through all the emotions; I had an aunt like this who bolstered me through crazy times with my mother. I think I need to channel auntie Lil and auntie Jenny in my interactions with her!

I know my H is struggling too, and I see his lashing out at me as a maneuver to avoid feeling bad. Let's blame it on IHJ. And I already feel bad, so why not take on more? That's why this BB is so important to me; it helps me clarify my role and not take on my H's stuff. I'm figuring out my boundaries.

I was going to collude with D14 and let her put a few pink streaks in, and defend it to H afterwards, but then I realized I'm reacting like a child myself. So H and I discussed it and he surprisingly agreed. D14 is one happy girl, for the moment, anyway.

Going through the teen years with these kids is going to stir a lot up.