My H is the strict one in our HH too. Usually I let him have the last word since I am willing to admit that I tend to err on the side of leniency. However, I would say that in matters of personal expression I would tend to support the kid's decision. Also, I think parents really need to pick their battles with teenagers. Therefore, I agree with you.
BTW. I'm experiencing some weird stuff with my D15 too. Yesterday she went out to breakfast with a boy and then they watched Annie Hall together, yet she claims that they are not dating. Of course, I was distracted from my attempt to offer motherly guidance by my complete wonder that my D was able to find a high school boy who likes diner breakfasts and Woody Allen classics.
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