Hhmmmm - interesting. I'm wondering if this would be a good time to have a discussion where you both verbally surrender to not orgasming and not worrying about it. I mean, this is a great time to just explore sensations with each other and not worry about the outcome (and I bet one or both of you will wind up oing involuntarily). Think youthful petting when there wasn't a goal except feeling one another and seeing what all this was about. I guess I think you have an opportunity for real closeness and intimacy if you let go of the goal. I do understand how disconcerting this can be - it has happened between me and H before. I almost always o so it is weird when I don't. He does too but once in a while he hasn't.
