Several other books address this same issue. Of course, the Bhuddists refer to "non-attachment" - they never say that you will not have yearnings, in themselves they are not the problem, it is the attachment that is. There is even one book on the whole sex issue that encourages the HD partner to learn to accept and love their own desire whether or not it is reciprocated. It is a good thing to explore probably a whole lot more fruitful than getting caught up in all the whys and wherefores of our significant other's sexuality (especially since our best educated guess can only ever be a partial truth, our SO is the only one in the position to know themselves that way).
