Lou and NOP... Thank you for your replies. Seems one issue is solved only for another to appear. Well, such is my life. H has been connected and loving and I am thankful for that. He does seem stressed out, though. He is not one to really be in touch with his emotions...tends to suck things up...so I often don't know what's really going on for him.
I am not going to have a discussion about the lack of O'ing ( it's been an on/off thing in the last few weeks). This weekend concerned me because it was twice in a row. I will continue to keep loving ( and hopefully exciting) experiences going.
My personal feeling is that it does bother him ( I don't think this is projection on my part). That's why he went for seconds on Sun morning. I know he would say he is getting a lot from feeling close and intimate with me, but from the past, I know that O'ing is impt to him. We tried the PBTS exercises ( where O'ing is actually discouraged so that "bonding" can occur) and that ended up becoming a rather short lived activity.
Knowing something of my H's oppositional nature, I should tell him I don't want him O'ing...that would do the trick! Maybe something more over the top on my part would work too...I do tend to be reserved even though my mind kind of works overtime.
I don't think anything medically related is going on...my guess is that it's a psych thing, as usual.
