Last nite H and I were going to sleep and I was bummed bc he didn't initiate anything ( but was staying neutral, or so I thought). He picked up on something and asked me what was wrong, and I fessed up that I was hoping to ML. He then said that if I am interested I should initiate, that he doesn't have to be the only one.
Huh??? I was playing by his rules, what makes him feel comfortable.
So we had a discussion about frequency and both agreed that 2-3x a week was best, but then he added that anytime (!) I want something more, I should just let him know.
Sounds downright flexible to me...maybe he is loosening some of the control.
We went on to have some blandish type sex, which is really not the point ( got that, self)? I felt really happy about the communication and the possibility of more give n take here.
