Quote: as H gets more mature and confident and I refrain from my mothering, rescuing ways
then cobra said
Quote: Whether you refrain from mothering and rescuing (i.e., controlling your reactions to your own fears) has nothing to do with his maturity and confidence.
I didn't get that IHJ was saying that her refraining from mothering was CAUSING her H to be more mature, OR that her H being more mature was CAUSING her to do less mothering.
A very wise older lady friend once said that she didn't believe in "cause and effect" but in "causally connected events." I saw these two things as being "causally connected events."
IHJ verified this when she said:
Quote: I'm getting out of my own way and enjoying my sensuality, that's all I can do. Coincidentally H is maturing...or is it coincidence?
IHJ, if you would email me at Lillieperl at hotmail, I'd like to send you something.
