Good observations and insights as usual, IHJ. This
Quote: however, the last few times he didn't O, which then makes me insecure about myself
-- I'd like you to really investigate this line of thinking deeply. Of course, logically, you KNOW having/not having the O is linked to many, many things that have nothing to do with one's partner. I'm wondering what is at the base of your feeling that when he doesn't O it has something to do with-- what? Your attractiveness? Your skill as a lover? Breeze past the first answers that come to you and dig a little deeper... I feel there is some gold down there... gold about YOU. Don't really know what I mean- just a gut feeling.
I think this is very sane and smart
Quote: I think the way do do that is to keep to a schedule and allow whatever transpires to just transpire...stay away from expectation and validation.
The fact that he is initiating regularly is so great. You know, Ms. 4 (artist/romantic), it's kind of like practicing any art-- music, painting, dance-- you go every day to the studio and you practice. Some days it's agony, some days it's ecstasy, some days it's drudgery, most days it's a sweet and comfortable routine. But you know it will be there every day for you. They say with any art you never know when the Angel Muse is going to show up, so you must go to the table/canvas/studio every day, because what if one day the angel is there and you aren't? A sex life like that wouldn't be so bad, now, would it?
