I think my H and you are very much in the same place or I would say that he was in that place previous to his recent Type 4 breakdown. His "I hate my job." angst, IMO, is really just a reflection of his inability to be his own "patron". He doesn't have a job that fulfills his artistic sensibilities and it also doesn't offer him enough free time to pursue them otherwise. Unfortunately (for him), I am pretty much unwilling to be more of a "patron" in this relationship. I would go cold-stone LD if I felt like I was "paying" for sex. My innate HD comes up against my innate female desire to be the pursued rather than the pursuer and my HD loses.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
