I don't think it's anger that makes me more HD...it's more about anxiety/insecurity, which, in either case, stems from rejection. The way to make IHJ HD in a long term relationship? No longer care. After 4 yrs of working on this marriage project ( and 2.5 yrs sharing all this here with you guys), I do not want to go down that rejection road again.
My H still projects the " I don't care" stuff, but I can sense now it's in a more differentiated way, like " I know I'm doing the responsible thing here and what I'm doing is fine." There is something sexy to this, even though I won't be swinging on chandeliers anytime soon...maybe that's what I can focus on,H's more confident attitude, although I am sure he'd much prefer the biceps compliments.
