Quote: have always felt there was some link between drive and aggression, which in turn related in part to anger. But I think this may really be due more to who is doing the pursuing.
I think it's all related. If my H were to not initiate any time soon I would probably become angry BECAUSE I would feel like I had to initiate sex and he was forcing me back into the role of pursuer. However, the fact that I am aware of this natural tendency in myself lets me put the brakes on this reaction. I remember that nobody can "force" me into the pursuer mode except myself. I am free to choose.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
