I don't know you or your sitch. I'm glad things have improved for you. Once a long time ago, some guy told me to touch myself in H presence to help arouse my H. I never did that for he was too "straight laced".

Ya think it might work?

On the other hand, about 5 years ago I got H to lay with me and we were kissing and embracing. It did feel good and I thought he might need a bit of a push. I started to slither and act "wanting". He got up and left. Our life went into complete shut down and I atribute my "in your face style" of the moment as giving too much pressure.

for what that's worth...ask him?

Pity me that the heart is slow to learn What the swift mind beholds at every turn. Edna St. Vincent Millay