Hi, Pat. Thanks for thinking about me. I, like you, hang out here and try to help out once in a while, but I just haven't had much time to post. Actually, I've been wanting to start a new thread to post basically the end of my saga. Of course, we're still working at this -- but the wonderful thing is, now we're working TOGETHER to piece back our M.
So, in answer to your question, YES, YES, YES things are going very well indeed with us. I still find it hard to believe that just 3 months ago I felt it was all over. I continue to feel such joy and happiness I sometimes wonder if the past two years was all just a horrible nightmare. Sort of like the famous "shower scene" in Dallas when Bobby "came back from the dead." Remember, it had all just been a horrible nightmare. Well, unfortinately, I know the past two years were real, but the love my H and I are experiencing now -- and is continue to grow each and every day -- is must a miracle.
I do have moments when my thoughts start to overwhelm me, but I am doing great at being able to push those thoughts away. All I have to do is look into my H's eyes and see the love there! He's calling me "babe" (I know Montana is probably gone and won't read this, but if you're out there Andy, you'll remember when I was boo-hooing over wanting my H to call me "babe" again.), and
Sweetheart," etc. He tells me how sweet I am!! (Who me?) He works from home now at least 2 days a week. He says he really likes being with me and hates going into the office!! We spend most evenings curled up together on the couch watching t.v. He's started working out again. Etc, Etc. Too many wonderfuly positive things to post here, besides I don't want to sound like I'm bragging
My H is Cuban and we are planning a "typical" Cuban Christmas feast for Christmas Eve. This entails a lot of work (roasting a whole pig in the ground). A few months ago my H said he absolutely didn't want to do it this year -- even though his sister and her family are coming from Florida to spend the holidays. Now, he's so excited about the prospect that he keeps inviting more and more people. I have no idea where we'll put everyone, but we'll manage. He's even started building the rig he uses for hoisting the pig already! He's like a little kid! He's just very, very happy to have his family intact after all the *%$! he's put us through.
We've talked for years about taking a trip to Tahiti for our 50th birthdays (our b'days are 3 days apart). Last summer he didn't want to talk about it at all. I remember the last time I brought it up was that fateful weekend we went with a group of friends to Yosemite (remember, saw the XOW -- which led me to discovering the EA!!) I was telling our friends we were thinking about going to Tahiti next year for our 50th's. H said something like, well, we don't have to get there for our 50th. Whenever we get there is fine. I'll never forget that. That was another one of those little warning bells that kept going off in my head that something wasn't right.
Well, now he can't stop talking about going on that trip next year. He's been gathering information on the internet and initiating conversations with me about when we should go, why don't we just go ahead and book, etc. Talk about a 180!!
As it stands right now, we're taking a couple of days the first of December to go to Las Vegas and just have some fun before the maddness of Christmas starts. Then we're going to Lake Tahoe for a week in January -- taking all the kids.
So, yes, my dear friend, things are going extremely well here. My H is still going to counseling. We both still struggle at times to "get over" the past. But we both know how really lucky we are to have walked through the fire and gotten to the other side in one piece -- yes, we have a few burns here and there, but those wounds are healing, the pain is dulling.
Well, see once I start typing, I just don't stop . I do have more I'd like to post, but hubby is waiting for me. Funny how he wants me around him all the time now! Funny how I want to be around him all the time now!
Thanks for caring,
Mattie
P.S. Pat I know you left me your email address a while back, but I haven't had time to go back and look for it. Here's mine if you'd ever like to write me off of this board -- and anyone else for that matter. I'm at melopez@pacbell.net.
. I do have more I'd like to post, but hubby is waiting for me. Funny how he wants me around him all the time now! Funny how I want to be around him all the time now!
