I was a little reticent to post your very first post. I know that sometimes, when I revisit my old feelings, they come back with full force.
But you're so positive lately, and it really seems that not only you've "gotten over it", but your H has too. He doesn't seem to be setting himself up as a punching bag anymore.
I don't think you were ever naive. Lack of knowledge about what was going on isn't the same thing.
It's really funny about the bond we feel towards each other. And yeah. It's wierd that we can't share that bond with our "real" friends.