I can't believe I'm posting this

[InHisHands]

My computer went down Thursday, so I haven't been able to post since then, but at least I got to read your advice before it died.

I'm still so uncertain about communicating with my husband. My communication style is kind of Point-Blank, In-Your-Face, Bottom-Line. I learned the hard way that this does not work well with him, so I'm trying to learn how to approach touchy subjects without putting him on the defensive. After reading your advice, I wrote him a letter that basically stole your words (hope nobody minds).

I don't have the letter with me, so this isn't exact, but basically it said, "I felt undervalued before because it seemed like you didn't want me . . . The threesome fantasy is great, but it just seems too real to me right now . . . I've never felt jealous before, but I do now and I need time to figure out how to deal with these feelings . . . I don't want to share you and I don't want you to share me . . . Right now, all I need is to know that we are committed to each other."

That was Thursday and that night in bed he said, "I read your letter," then he held me and we ML. That was it, I didn't push to talk any more about it and he didn't say any more about it, but it's Tuesday now and he hasn't brought up anything that made me uncomfortable since then, so maybe it worked?

Thank you guys so much for your advice. The line between healthy boundaries and demanding bitch is a little fuzzy to me, I've always landed on the side of demanding bitch and I'm trying so hard to change that . . . now I'm afraid I'm going too far the other way. Thanks for helping me find a balance.