It's normal, then, for husbands to want that kind of sex with their wives? I honestly didn't know that. I look at other couples and they seem so -- I don't know -- connected. I can't imagine some of the other wives I know being their husbands' sex toy.
Do you think he honestly wants me to be with another man or he honestly wants to be with another woman or is it just something that turns him on to think about? Is this okay in a healthy marriage?
As you could probably tell, I'm no expert on healthy relationships so this whole thing is unchartered territory for me.
Hi, IHH.
Well, where to start?
I think the best place might be with some boundaries for yourself.
Those boundaries should be lined up with the woman you are *today*. The Christian woman who left behind a life for which she has been forgiven.
I read through your earlier posts and read how your husband had come home and was tearful and remorseful.
What changed in less than 2 weeks from "tearful and remorseful" to "let's do threesomes and f*ck around with other people?"
Because, that's a lot of territory to cover in just 2 weeks.
I didn't interpret your husband's conversation in the same way you did in regards to the ability to have sex without emotional involvement. He's not looking for you to be that way when you're having sex with him - he (IMO) is asking "why can't you be that way with this other guy I want you to have sex with while I watch (or participate)?"
How long have you been married? Has he had any other sexual partners prior to you? In the past was his sexual activity with you fairly vanilla? If so, what do you think has triggered this new sexual venue?
Please, please, please. Do not allow yourself to be coerced into something like this. I don't think it *ever* turns out well.
