I personally think that fantasizing about threesomes (or moresomes) is perfectly okay in a healthy marriage. That in fact is a fantasy of mine, but I would never want it to go beyond the fantasy stage.
Let me ask you this: if you were sure that there was nothing morally wrong with such a FANTASY, would you be okay with your H sharing the fantasy with you?
But... the peanut scene really creeped me out. I get the impression he does not want this to stay at the fantasy level.
Like Martelo, I also question that you did anything truly vile and disgusting. As long as you didn't torture little children or animals, whatever you did was probably what grownups do.
Now that you are a Christian and God has forgiven you, be sure to forgive yourself, okay? Otherwise, you're only halfway there.
