HI MATTIE!! Sounds like you are handling the day very well! You sound like you are feeling good and able to deal with the day!! Hope the whole day and evening go the way you want it to!! It's your decision as to whether or not to mention what the day is and what it means to you. You just have to ask yourself if you do bring it up what the consequences could be and could you handle them. Your H could get very upset and hurt and cause him to have a "set back". He could get very angry. If he hadn't even thought about the XOW and what the date is,it could make him think of "her" and everything else. But if it will make you feel better somehow and help you through the day,then you should do it. I could tell you what I would do but that is ME...you have to do what is best for YOU!!
I have "anniversary dates" for a lot of things...the first time he went to "be with her" is coming up in November but that is a 2 year one so it shouldn't be as rough as the first one but I know I will remember it. Then twice in Dec. I have 2 year anniversaries of his visits to her and then one more 2 year one coming up in Feb (that's a real tough one because it was a week before Valentine's day and 2 weeks before our wedding anniversary !!)I will not mention to my H that I even remember the dates and to be honest I really don't think he will even think about it after all this time. I really and truly hope that eventually theses dates will fade completely away!! Do you think that can happen? Am I a real "NUT CASE" for even remembering those dates? I think that possibly I will always remember the date I discovered the infidelity and the date that I discovered he was still emailing her but hopefully the other odd dates will go away!!
I have had you on my mind today because I remembered this date was coming up! I wish you the very best!! Let us know how the rest of the day goes!!
Pat