Thanks, guys. I like that saying. Believe me, I really don't think much about the PA anymore. I must admit the EA is still on my mind a little. It's only been 2 months. But she is also becoming a non-issue to me, as apparently she has to my H.
I think what is happening to me is pretty normal, actually. It's like any other traumatic event in life -- the 1st aniversary of that event brings back all the pain, but with each subsequent anniversary that pain decreases.
I don't so much want to bring up the OWs next week as to perhaps touch base with my H on where WE are in our R. I also decided I just want to try and overlay the bad memories with good ones. I'm afraid if I mention the "anniversary" at all, though, it will have the opposite affect on him.
My mother has mentioned wanting to have a face-to-face with my H this weekend. We have many family events coming up soon and they will be very uncomfortable if this face-to-face doesn't take place. I think my H understands that. He was the one that said a couple of weeks ago that he should go talk with my mom. She wasn't able to at that point. She was having a bad day with my stepdad (he has Alzheimer's), and she also just found out she may be having a recurrence of breast cancer. I know my H feels bad that he can't really be there for them right now. He really loves them. He is very ashamed to have to face my mother, but he is willing to do it so that, hopefully, she won't worry too much about us for the time-being.
So, next week will be interesting if nothing else.
I plan to really listen to what my inner voice is telling me these next few days. I will know what to do when the time comes.
