I hope you're right. I'd like there to be some reason for going through this. Interesting thought -- focus on "wanting" to be w H. I guess that's my dilema -- do I want to be with someone who's treated me so cruely? Probably not the best way to look at it. Where are those positive thoughts when you need them?
Rachael,
If you need to see the cell phone bills then by all means get them. You deserve some peace of mind. I would also like you to think about the fact that Adrian is probably still processing all the hurt that he's caused you. He might feel foolish telling you he loves you right now considering his actions were of the most "unloving" type. This is probably where my H is, too. After all, it wasn't that long ago he told me he didn't love me -- told our kids he didn't love me, then two days later that all changed. He knows I'm having a hard time believing anything he says, so consequently he doesn't say anything (or at least doesn't say it enough).
Last night I told my H that if he still had any feelings for the EA to get on a plane and go see her and figure out just what those feelings were. I said I don't want to wonder for the rest of my life if he's pineing away for someone else. I cannot and I won't play second fiddle to anyone and that if he had ANY doubts about his feelings he needed to explore them now. I think that really startled him. Maybe it finally hit home that I'm not playing around anymore. He said he absolutely didn't want anything to do with her and certainly wasn't going to go see her.
