mattie, you make perfect sense to me. my h never felt worthy. and yes he set about to prove it. testing me to see if i would leave? to see if i would give up on him? he chose to have affairs with 2 low class undesirables and you really helped me with your last post to gain some understanding. it still hurts like hell however. and i truly need to get past my anger at the 2nd ow. it is my pride that is wounded that i need to get past. i can't stand that the ow thought she could get my h away from me. she set out on her quest the moment she saw my pic on h's desk. it was a thrill for her to make a pretty woman's h cheat. she is not attractive by any definition. i never knew i was vain, but there has to be some aspect of that if i am so upset about this. i am not proud of this. you gave me a lot to think about. lisa
