In short they can justify anything if they want to badly enough and do so they don't have to feel they are guilty for the pain they are inlficting on everyone including them selves! My H also saw me as the big Meany and the OW as such a sweet thing that she actually had the nerve to sayshe felt bad for me!!! SO..she felt so bad she kept rigth on doing it! IT's all lies they tell each other to present themselves to each other in the best possible light. The ow showed what she was capable of when my H broke it off with her-I guess she figured she did not have to rpetend anymore so she layed the big guilt trip on him and was very nasty to him and told him never to call her again. HE was not axious to have anyting more to do with her after that outburst. My fear is that seh called him beggging fro another chance-he says she has not but I don;t beleive she would give up that easy-maybe she really did figure after over 2 yrs he really wasn't going to leave his family and wife for her and is moving on. That's my hope anyway! Rachael M.
