OSU, keep in mind that you don't "have" to call anyone, you choose to call. there's nothing wrong with doing that but just remember you are at the controls here! When we say " I have to" it implies helplessness and that is counter productive. It's all about empowering ourselves so that we can keep working at our sitch's. Just a thought.
About the lease nope I am screwed. I have to go and talk to the LL. I am pretty scared about doing that because it makes me feel little (Guy thing I guess). Any suggestions about that.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
OSU: Is your LL a big co. or a person ? I think you could simply talk to him or her and explain your change of income circumstances and ask to be relieved from your lease once they found another tenant. Just a thought.
It is an individual. That is where I am planning on starting first. Not to mention this would be a 180 for me because I always had the W talk to the LL. I simply just paid whatever she said that we had to pay.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
When I offer a hus to my W she accepts and basically follows my lead. If I give a friendly pat on the back hug she returns the same. If I give her an embracing hug she gets confused and starts with a friendly hung and then ends up squezing at least as tight if not tighter than I am. This is where the DBing gets confuseing. I am getting a good respoce from the hugs but I do not want to be to pushy either.
Like last night I just open up my arms and she came walking right in. Good sign right?
I do not offer hugs all of the time I try to keep it spuratic (spelling?) but everytime I offer I she follows my lead.
How should I hamdle this one? Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Since this thread has your name on it, I wanted to ask a question. A major issue in my sitch right now is my oldest son.(22). As I've explained before, he is actually my stepson and is considered disabled with cystic fibrosis. Since he is considered disabled, we can classify him as an adult dependent and we get to keep him on health insurance that way. Here is the dilemma. I have never had the chance to adopt him legally and if W and I are not legally married I can no longer claim him as a dependent. Hence, he loses health insurance and will have to go on medicaid. I took this to an attorney, and she was unfamiliar with any provision in Ohio to allow me to maintain him as a dependent and continue his coverage. I know that in some states there are provisions for continuation of things like health insurance but Ohio seems a bit behind on this. Do you know of any provisions that would help here?
rhoch
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