J: The controllers do not show the signs until they "have you ".. that is their trademark.. male or female with the female histrionics vs. the male narcissism..
Either way life gets sucked out of you.. they do that. btw.... and the worst thing is they have no idea that is what they are doing but they need it.. and since they have no idea.. it sadly takes its toll on your mind and spirit. Your needs and wants get sacraficed for them.
