Oh my, sorry to hear that turn of events. It definitely is one thing to "know" it, but another to actually hear it.
That being said, I think AT has a good point, perhaps you are at the stage where sitting back and taking stock of life is an opportunity for you.
You are in my thoughts today...take care.
Rob
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
1210: All of us are "ok" around here. I missed seeing you the last few days.. lets see.. Carrera ? hmm.. not sure if I did that well.. never had a Porsche ? Just old vette for me.
Not to worry, have you ever driven a Carrera and got stuck in the middle of a major roadway with 8 lanes of traffic honking at you...then your S tells you think, you know what gear you need to be in? I have, the "gear" I chose was to open the door and run to the otherside of the highway...left him there scrambling to get over the gear shift and move the car.
What bday will this be for you btw... I forgot to ask that . It just sounds to me that your H was a controller ? I dont know.. I would bail out of the car also ! I think it is hard to relax and enjoy yourself after that.. the (maybe.. as I dont know ?)constant nagging or disapproval and/or finding fault from H.
Yes, he was controlling...but there were no signs until after we were married. It seems that he needed to run the R.
One night, he got dressed and I said where are you going? He said that he was going out with his friends, so I was not too happy. I said, let's go do something. Then, he tells me there was a cobweb in the corner by the ceiling and I should stay home and clean. Off he went... Nice huh?
I cannot stand for anyone to clip my wings. It was then, I think, I started looking and listening to my boss's kind, non-judgemental words.
But, his OW id definitely a plain-jane...so he can have her...
J: The controllers do not show the signs until they "have you ".. that is their trademark.. male or female with the female histrionics vs. the male narcissism..
Either way life gets sucked out of you.. they do that. btw.... and the worst thing is they have no idea that is what they are doing but they need it.. and since they have no idea.. it sadly takes its toll on your mind and spirit. Your needs and wants get sacraficed for them.
Sounds logical...that would explain getting engaged in my junior year of college...sort of a "taken" approach.
Oh well, what can you do...if that is what he wants, then so be it...it seems to work with her being self-servant. I've always been raised to keep strength around you, not the weak...maybe he needs to still feel that he is the king of the roost, that's why he chose her.
I'm not going to let it bother me, who knows, maybe she's pushing him to be wife number two.
...Could not sleep...so I got up and went outside; there wasn't one star in the sky.
Thanks for the compliment btw...that was sweet.
You asked me what b-day was coming up? You know that one should never ask...okay, let's see...take 182, then cut that by two and then divide by two, then two again. OOOOOPs!!!! Does that make sense? How old are you?
Alright, I'll try bed again, see what will happen this time.
