Well, this was just a lovely evening. It started off well, I thought, but, then it went downhill.
It seems my XH is thinking of selling the house (what an idiot, the bubble burst down here) so that he can buy a new one with his girlfriend (OW). So, I told George, my XH can do what he wants, it's legally his, to do what he wants. I asked why did he feel the need to tell me and he said that my X and OW are planning to buy a house for themselves.
So, I asked George, are they getting really serious? He says that's why he came by, was to tell me it might be and he didn't want me to hear or find out and be surprised.
Then, he asked me how I felt. The only thing I could say that entered my mind was from a song by U2...I said did you come here to raise the dead? Stupid, but I said it.
He asked if I was angry with my X, I said no. But, I did not appreciate the fact that I found out afterwords, that my X was having an A and yet, I was chastized for my A.
Then, I thought, could DR work through my X's friend. So, I went on about how much I cared for and still love my X, but b/c of our jobs, we let our M fail...yada, yada, yada. It was sort of pulling myself out of a hole I dug.
He stayed for about an hour and a half. I asked him again, what was the real reason for calling me and he said he just didn't want me to be surprised. He said most of my X's friends don't care for her - she apparently is the sub- servant type. She was answering phones at his dealership. I laughed, it really didn't seem like his type.
But, George was nice and polite - he said that my X is going through a phase now (???) and he has told him that he really wished that it had worked out between us. I can see how my X is working on that now!!
Well, that's it in a basket...so much for the OW being a fantasy. Not.
I did ask George to let me know if they get M (I'll send a card) or if something should happen to him, let me know. He said he would.
So, I guess, I'm finished with all the DB / DR I can possibly do in my sitch...but I'll survive, I just have to continue on with my life...tomorrow is another day, I'll just have to get through tonight.
