OK, I'm sure none of you can sleep tonite without finding out the outcome of the big meeting ! It's done. We agreed on a plan re kids allowance and Xmas decisions were postponed as W was too tired to continue. I made sure we got who was going to do what. I let her go on about how terrible we have been re allowances and how we always make plans that last two months and then they die. She loves to point out all our failures (if you want to call them that). I tend to look on some of these things as life happening whereas she likes to use them to put us down as parents. Maybe we should meet halfway! Usually, I start to defend us by explaining why something didn't happen the way we had planned etc but tonite I just let her go. When I defend I am saying "you are wrong" cuz I'm miffed at her negativity...once I even said "then stop bitching about it and get off your butt and do something about it". It didn't go well!!! Tonite, I just let it happen and actually it ended quicker and without frustration on both sides. I should know by now that she's going to "vent" and I can't personalize it (which I do) and then life moves on. So now all you night owls can go to bed, meeting over! P.S. Guess who came home with a Christmas gift for the girls tonite...and it wasn't me! Too funny!!!!!
! It's done. We agreed on a plan re kids allowance and Xmas decisions were postponed as W was too tired to continue. I made sure we got who was going to do what. I let her go on about how terrible we have been re allowances and how we always make plans that last two months and then they die. She loves to point out all our failures (if you want to call them that). I tend to look on some of these things as life happening whereas she likes to use them to put us down as parents. Maybe we should meet halfway! Usually, I start to defend us by explaining why something didn't happen the way we had planned etc but tonite I just let her go. When I defend I am saying "you are wrong" cuz I'm miffed at her negativity...once I even said "then stop bitching about it and get off your butt and do something about it". It didn't go well!!! Tonite, I just let it happen and actually it ended quicker and without frustration on both sides. I should know by now that she's going to "vent" and I can't personalize it (which I do) and then life moves on. So now all you night owls can go to bed, meeting over!
