Thanks 1210, today I've been thinking about some of the things I've been reading in "How to Heal A Painful Relationship...", it was well worth the buck I invested!He talks about taking "your responsibility" for the R. Ferguson writes "If someone has an A, that person is clearly responsible. So is his or her spouse. People usually have affairs to find love and appreciation. If this was sufficiently provided by the spousethere wouldn't have been an affair. Both are totally responsible." This was most insightful, "When you point to someone elses responsibility, you give away all your power. You make that person cause and put yourself totally at his or her mercy". So letting go and taking responsibility are musts for doing any real DBing. I look at my W and try to think and feel what she must have been going through in the past few years. It must be horrible to feel yourself being pulled under by the waves of life and feeling the person you want to pull you out isn't there for you. That would be such a lonely, frightening feeling to have. This does not mean that I could have been there in the way she wanted, it matters not now, but it's important to recognize that we both played a part in the sad events that occurred. Anyway, time to go pick up the youngest at her gymnastics class. My Friday is rushing one to gymnastics and the other to dance then picking them up. At 9:00 pm I will rest! Thanks for checking in, the encouragement is always welcome.
