When I do try to ask how she is (cuz she seems down) she says "I don't need a counsellor, thank you" and walks away. So I stopped asking. When she wants to talk she will, and she has twice since I stopped asking. Both times I made sure I listened, validated and didn't tell her what to do (I save that for here )! I guess in reality, we all have to recognize that we can't change what is in the other persons head. That is very difficult sometimes. Hopefully through my DB efforts she will want to change her perspective to compromise somewhat. She doesn't see the compromise aspect to M. She wants what she wants and that is that. If I can't come through then too bad for me! It's a very rigid mindset and it's one she has to look at if our M has any chance of success. I just hope that all the changes I have made give her the impetus to look beyond these rigid constructs that make up her present definition of happiness. Time will tell.
)! I guess in reality, we all have to recognize that we can't change what is in the other persons head. That is very difficult sometimes. Hopefully through my DB efforts she will want to change her perspective to compromise somewhat. She doesn't see the compromise aspect to M. She wants what she wants and that is that. If I can't come through then too bad for me! It's a very rigid mindset and it's one she has to look at if our M has any chance of success. I just hope that all the changes I have made give her the impetus to look beyond these rigid constructs that make up her present definition of happiness. Time will tell. 
