I often think about that as well. I think all you can do is the times that you can tell what she is thinking let her know. If you have no clue let it go and if she needs help or advise then let her ask. There is no way possible that anyone can read minds all of the time. Even the OW. She probably just lets her know when she can sense somthing is wrong and is there to listen to her. Heck I really do not know but Try anything. Remeber that is part of DBing try and try again until you find somthing that works and then stick with it.

Take care brother.

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3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months)
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