Thanks 90210, oh sorry, 12102006 . Yes, it is encouraging but my W has now told me we are not going to the dinner function. She's just not into socializing with all the rich people (it's a work deal). I said that was fine but if she changed her mind I'd be glad to go. I do believe her reasons for not wanting to go. She hates having to chit chat with those people. As far as my sitch itself, it certainly has been a long haul and I have tried to stick to what I believe will be beneficial in the long run. I have tried to stick to my values, not be vindictive or hurtful, GAL my butt off, set some boundaries, be a supportive H and still be the best Dad I know how to be. I don't whine, cry and or blow my stack (OK, maybe once or twice!) , I do not have R talks with her or verbally attack OP but instead I have tried to use positive actions rather than just more words, pushing the BR dance classes and learning her culture's cooking are examples. I'm trying not to talk change but to be change! By doing so I am growing stronger and happier. If W wants some of that then she's welcome to it and if not, I will have to deal with it. Right now I'm looking at working on some personal stuff. We all have habits or traits that we know aren't particularly effective or even pleasant so I'm going to work on changing some of those. Will I be off the BB soon? I'm not counting the days! But I do appreciate the confidence you have in me, it helps alot. Thanks.
. Yes, it is encouraging but my W has now told me we are not going to the dinner function. She's just not into socializing with all the rich people (it's a work deal). I said that was fine but if she changed her mind I'd be glad to go. I do believe her reasons for not wanting to go. She hates having to chit chat with those people. 
