Quote: When we add the ego layers,... we make things worse
needed to read that, I feel like a total idiot now, I wanted my ego stroked and that's why I insisted H "validate" me about our and his ex SL, we were actually doing much better in that dept and here I am acting my shoe size.
I collapse like a drama queen, not w/grace, I still dont' know how to behave, it's pathetic. I still expect him to "earn" his way back. I was reading a book this am which said that the grace of forgiveness is a gift, which must be freely given and no amount of "hoop jumping" will make someone earn such a gift.
I do want my H to jump hoops at some degree, he doesnt' give me much but I don't appreciate what he has give me already.
<sigh> I'm calling him right now to tell him not to read the stupid TM I sent and to forgive me if he has already read it.
thanks so much whatisis)))
...but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.
piecing after separation
