Here's tonite's wisdom from "The Five Things We Cannot Change..." so read on fellow DBers,
"I am now more careful...not to become the CIA: Critic, Interpreter, and Advisor. We can make it a spiritual practice not to criticize others' behavior, not to interpret what they do according to our worldview, and not to advise unless we are invited to do so. Eliminating these three behaviors from our repertory, especially with partners and family members, makes our communication much more loving and respectful. The five essential qualities of genuine love -- attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing (what I call the five A's) -- do not survive well with the CIA in pursuit"
I think this says a lot to all we LBS's trying to win back our M's. What do you think?
