I've always tried to live this sitch by remaining positive. Always believing that you can never really know what's around the next corner. Even when things looked bad maybe... But there comes a time when one has to wonder about the sanity of continuing to do that. I've done a ton of stuff for myself and truly am a fuller, better person and that is good. It is very difficult to live with someone who seems to view me as furniture much of the time. Where's the line? When do you say "I've had enough"? I can live for myself forever but will another R ever come from the place I'm in now? I have opportunities I could pursue but feel it is wrong to even contmplate such things. I'm married to my W and love her dearly and as long as I am there, my mindset stays that way. Is it healthy? Part of me just wants to give up, to hell with DBing. She wins!!!You may be right, Muddle, it's time to go inside and see what I need versus what might be right for the sitch. Sometimes it is hard to separate the two! Thanks.
