Hey Mr. Happy: you sound resentful. You sound like everything you are doing is an attempt to bring your W and M around, and it's not working even though it's supposed to. You sound like you are acting on something to bring about change in that something - but you are looking upon it as something that is separate from you. It's not. I suggest you drop all attempts to change your situation and look only to yourself. See what you can do for yourself that you have put off or that you think would make you a more marketable single. Work at it. Ignore the effect on your W. Move on. Once you stop trying to change the situation by viewing it as separate from you (which to me means viewing yourself in the light of right and the relationship or your W the wrong), you will really make serious progress. If you start looking to the you a new person will see and think about what they will see and start changing to make yourself more attractive by taking into account your part in all the relationship problems you currently are experiencing, you may start to see things turn around. You must be the change you want to see in the relationship.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
