I can't help think there is a textbook out there that they all read! Your W is spouting the same stuff we all hear. Take it with a grain of salt. That doesn't mean dismiss it but recognize where it's coming from. I'd like to hear how her OM's W would describe the wonderful H and father! Your line to her was "I can't make you happy..." is one we've all tried and it never turns out well!!! Ditch the convincing because she doesn't want to hear it. I went through it all with my W, telling her that her new R is a joke and it's just a big fantasy blah blah blah. It was a waste of time although it did make me feel a bit better! Stick to getting together a DB plan around what was missing in the M because that is real, not fantasy. We all got into these messes by NOT meeting our S's needs. That is fact. Now it's time to try and do that as best you can. Lastly, do the GAL thing, it's crucial.
