I will attempt to provide details focusing on where I am at today and trying to fill in the history of how we got here.
My wife would like to follow her heart and be with the OM.She feels she has never followed her heart, I really must be clueless because I thought she did this when we got married. She believes she has outgrown me and now with the help of the OM understands what is important in life and I cannot provide that for her. She would relocate to another State, roughly 10 hours away with our children, he would leave his wife and child and they would be married when the law would allow.
She loves our children dearly and recognizes that I am their father; however, she has convinced herself that OM would be a better father because he has so many better traits than me, he is selfless, loving, considerate of all people, understands women (reads Glamor and Cosmo) works at home and frankly just understands what is important in life.
She feels trapped because of the kids and the fact that financially we stand to lose 80% of our net worth if we seperate and go different paths. She believes all the changes I have made our for me because of the kids and the money and also believes I will never be able to change enough to make her happy (tried to explain I can not make her happy - that did not go over well)
I am trying to work on myself, still have trouble with pointing out my changes to her which equals manipulation. I have been so naive to this whole process. I am working on myself with the hope that this will reignite our relationship and if not help me be the kind of person and father to my children that I desire to be.
I will follow up later with more details on what has happened.
