As a follow up to your question I have changed my work hours, I am no longer controlling her and I am making time daily to give her a break from the kids.
I have told her to go and see the OM to determine if this fantasy is real or not, unfortuntly she will only go if she can take the kids with her and we seperate. Without boring everyone with the details, I am a minority partner in several partnerships that do not want any part of the legal side of divorce and they have the power to terminate me for a nominal amount. In essence we would lose everything we worked for over the past eight years.
I have never been at a place in my life where I am faced with losing everything. At the end of the day the most important aspect is my family. I still have my brain and would hopefully be able to make the financial gains again; however, I would hate to give it all away without trying to stop this train wreck first.
