Update on H and his MLC

[cat03]

not trying to make him feel guilty...I was just trying to get some sympathy...

It's the story of my life, each time. Whenever I cry out of frustration H thinks I'm trying to manipulate him and he hates it, thus, doesnt give me confort I seek.

I see that you got attached to the locket, that it means lots to you, but you must let it go now, the locket is a means to an end, it is just a symbol, and if the retrieval of it and talks about it will bring grief and have your H feel cornered and insufficient, drop it hon, it isnt' worth it.

I can totally see that happening in my sitch, we women place so much sentimental value on things. I posted months ago how H had saved a frame where he'd had a pict of him and OW, not because he wanted to hold to it, but because, my practical H thought it was a perfectly usable frame.
I felt the frame was disease ridden, and was glad when it inadvertly broke as I was trying to put a pict on it.
Your H just didnt' understand how much you valued that locket, to him, what counts is that he is there, more than any lockets.

It's down to the wiring of men an women, how we each perceive things, you must remember that imLIN.

I just wanted him to understand my loss....that locket meant so much to me.... He wouldn't even give me a hug because he was so angry...so he left me sobbing on my bed and went to work....

It reminds me of that section on 'men r from mars women r from venus' where it says that when a man feels bad, he isnt' going to want a hug an company, he wants to be left alone, and maybe that's what he thougth he was doing, giving you space. Then again, like my H, he is emotionally unable, at this point- to offer consolation. Give him time.

Bill is right on the money, your H might feel like he's failed you, and seeing you miserable reminds him of what he can't give you. Search your heart again, the locket was a nice tocken, but all in all we wear love in our hearts.