Thanks for the reply Bill....my husband doesn't have a problem with admitting he is affraid of this guy...that I understand....and this guy absolutely wants no part of me being around "his" place....he really is an unstable person...and he is a criminal defense attorney so I am sure he has some internal issues as well....along with paranoia
H and I went to breakfast yesterday and then after we got back and we were still in the car I asked if we could talk about it....he agreed...I acknowledged his reasons for not wanting to go into the apartment....I also asked him if it was possible he was confusing guilt with feeling bad...because I was not trying to make him feel guilty...I was just trying to get some sympathy....I know I emotionally melted down on him and it happened quickly between my request for him to get the locket and my acknowledgment of why he couldn't....he missed that transition and thought I was mad at HIM...when really I was deeply sad because for the first time since he returned I realized that I may not get the locket back...even if he can say ILY again....that is where my emotional shake up came in....
He asked me point blank why the locket was so important...why another wouldn't suffice...so I explained that it was our last anniversary together that he gave it to me.....and it was when we broke up and he couldn't tell me if he loved me or not when he gave it to me that I gave it back....I said I only wanted it if he could tell me that he loved me....at that point I wasn't sure I would ever see that locket again...but when he returned it became a prize to me....something for making it to the end of journey....a token of love....REAL LOVE...what I have fought so hard to get back....that is where the sentimental value of THAT locket came in....I told him another locket would only create stress for me....spending money we couldn't really afford to spend....and a constant reminder of the locket that was lost...the one I valued most...
So in the end....he said, "Maybe I can write a letter to "_" and ask him to leave it at the receptionist desk. I can't really see any value to him for that locket and perhaps he would understand your intense desire to have it returned."....I should say that H has left a complete Bose home theater, a deluxe new king sized bed, and very expensive corner group sofa, and misc. musical and recording equipment....I guess he is going to write it off as a loss and hope this guy doesn't come after him for the rent he never paid....
So anyway....I am trying not to get my hopes up....this guy has an unfounded dislike for me and my gut feeling about him is that he is not to be trusted....when I found out that H had moved in with him I was not comfortable with that...H kept telling me what a great guy he was...what a brilliant lawyer he was....but I was not impressed.....and in a few months he started not talking so much about him and finally admitted he was a real jerk....like that was news to me....although I bit my tongue because this guy helped show H that I wasn't as back as he thought, lol....funny it was an OM (not in the sexual sense at all) that helped him find his way back to me, lol....sort of funny now that I think about it...
Well, thanks for checking on this for me....I hope that someday that locket you gave Annie will be as important to you when you see her wear it as my locket is to me....
