Ahh yes, it's time to visit the OM again. Muddle, this seems to be the line you talked about on your other thread. You can't emotionally let her go enough to say "it's your choice" and then leave it to her. I know I struggled with this one at one time too. I was considering telling my W that she is free to spend as much time with OP as she wishes and that I won't stand in her way. My T suggested that I would be giving her permission to do something I view as immoral, how do I explain to my kids, when they're older, that Dad said it was OK for mommy to F around. I've left it to my W to make her decisions and live with her conscience around them. I, too, in the near future have to deal with my W's plans to spend a weekend with OP, it's tough. The choice is for me to say "if you go, don't come back" or allow her to make this choice in the hopes that the freedom it allows will help her recognize the wrong in what she is doing. If I stop her all she sees is me stopping her, she never looks at the A. It's a tough call. I choose to allow her choice and stay for my kids, but that's me right now. One day, I too, may have to draw the line as you feel you need to. Let me know how your T session goes tonight.
