Ahh, Muddle, if only she could use her genius for good instead of evil! This woman could save the world I guess you just go with whatever will cause the least damage: duck and cover!
I do understand what you mean when you say that despite this journey you feel loved. I tell people on this BB that this terrible time can indeed be a time that makes you a happier and healthier person. It must seem so odd to read for newcomers. Personally, this traumatic experience has opened doors for me that I never considered or chose to leave closed. I have more people to support me than I have fingers, my W has none. I think by acknowledging all the good and positive, despite the negative, we keep afloat. You make me proud to be an LBS! Seriously, you are doing great.