No kidding on the convincing thing - I'm not trying to do so, it's just tough living with someone who chooses to view me as something so far from how I view myself. I mean convincing in the sense that I need to show her through my consistant actions that I'm not who she's making me out to be. Oh well, I can't control what anyone else thinks of me.
On the other hand, I've been pretty good about not building any resentment. We had a really good weekend - took our son out to a great event and it was nice family time. It's been difficult because the better we get along, the more I miss/want her and things to be different than they are. I have to be detached but not distant during these times as well, otherwise I'm likely to interpret her niceness the way I want to see it and then get mad or hurt when she doesn't give me the kind of attention I want - or she's likely to interpret my distance as resentment or negative emotions. If there's one thing I've learned through detachment it's how to avoid getting my feelings hurt by managing my expectations and feelings. We'll see where this train is headed soon enough.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
